How Self-Talk Changes Moods
A famous psychologist, Dr. Albert Ellis changed the face of psychology on the 60’s and 70’s by arguing that it is our self-talk or thinking patterns that determine how will respond to events in our world and what we will feel about them. He went on to explain that this also explains why person “A”…
The AngerCoach Show – Episode 6 – How to deal with a passive aggressive
This months episode handles the topic of how to deal with a passive aggressive person. To help us understand this behavior, we interview Dr. Roselyn Laudati who helps us recognize passive aggression in ourselves and others as well as provides excellent tips on how to handle this behavior. Please note: This anger program and these…
The AngerCoach Show Returns!
We’re back! After a long hiatus, we’ve finally revisited the AngerCoach show and promise to be better than ever! In this episode, we look at the high cost of anger as well as answer the question: “Is anger ever a good thing?” Keep listening – you might be surprised at the answer. Be sure to…
Angry people often try to control the uncontrollable
Much anger in the world is generated by people trying to control or change other people who do not wish to be controlled or changed. Rather than thinking in terms of control, think instead of other methods of influencing others such as: persuading, educating, rewarding, enticing, compromising, being a positive role model, advising, urging or…
Federal Employees need Anger Management Too Sometimes
I recently received a referral from an employee for the Department of Homeland Security (DHS). DHS employees often face very stressful situations, depending on their job function and can find learning skills in anger management to be extremely helpful. Homeland security is one of our nations top priorities and therefore can be an equation for…
New Beginnings – Dedicated to Cjon Damitri Patterson
At the brink of every New Year we make promises to ourselves and to the ones we love to change. Often we’ve made the same promises every year for the last decade and find ourselves repeating the same negative habits, hurting ourselves and the people we care about. In some circles the number 8 is…
Anger Tip 1- Add Gray To Your World!
Tonight in anger management class, two new enrollees admitted they were there because they see the world as “black and white” with nothing between. “Things are either right or wrong…this way or that way,” one of the participants insisted.” “What is wrong with this concept”, I asked? More experienced class members chimed in that the…
Good Reviews For New Online Anger Program
The Anger Coach published its new online program in November, 2006, allowing adults and couples to learn the eight tools of anger control from the convenience of their computers. Many people across the USA (and in other countries) have now completed the 10-hour program and rate it highly, making comments such as “I wish my…
Cell Phone Use Increases Stress
From The American Institute Of Stress: “One might think that cell phones would reduce stress by facilitating contacting someone in an emergency or transmitting time urgent information but a recent study suggests otherwise. A sociology professor who followed more than 1300 people found that those who regularly used cell phones or pagers “experienced an increase…
Spousal Anger May Shorten Life
In a recent edition of “Stress Scoop”, research shows that happily married couples are healthier and live longer, possibly because they have less stress. “…a recent study showed that even if spouses usually get along well, the stress caused by a brief argument can slow healing of a surgical wound by as much as a…
Holiday Stress Leads to Anger
Learning to deal with stress is one of the eight tools that is needed for anger control. Learning to deal with holiday stress is even more challenging because of the time crunch around the holidays and the need to deal with relatives who might not always be exactly at the top of your Christmas list….
Aggressive Response Triggers More Road Rage
According to new research published by the Response Insurance Company: Fully one-half of drivers who are subjected to aggressive driving behavior on the road respond with aggression of their own, thus risking a more serious confrontation. when a driver gets the finger, is cut off or tailgated, 50% of the victims respond with horn honking,…
Anger Tip-Spend Time With Buddies
Let’s face it, your family can’t satisfy all your needs all the time. So, it’s smart anger management to indulge in a boys night out or a girls night out. You relax and unwind in different ways when you socialize with members of the same sex. You can talk more openly than you do in…
The AngerCoach Show – Episode 2 Aggressive Driving & Road Rage
This month’s episode deals with aggressive driving and road rage. Aggressive driving not only endangers people’s lives, but puts immense stress on our relationships with others. We talk about practical ways individuals can reduce stress and calm down while on the road, as well as ways of mitigating road related disagreements. We host Dr. Leon…
Anger can be NEW or OLD
One of our students found herself “going bananas” after a guest innocently left a gate open after leaving her house. Why the extreme reaction, we wondered. Turns out that she had a “history” with open gates. At age 6, her brother accidentally left a gate open which caused her favorite dog to escape and unfotunately…
Memories Depend on Focus
We teach our anger management students that often anger is generated by arguments with someone reagrding what happened in the past. As you probably know, two people (like a parent and child, or, two siblings) may have the same experience but remember it in quite different ways. Why is this? Often we suspect that the…
Looking For Aristotle Awards Nominees
It was Aristotle who said: “Anyone can be angry, that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right reason, and in the right way, this is not easy.” In this tradition, we are looking for nominees of people who have faced anger…
Reduce Anger by Asserting Yourself
This holiday season, you may find yourself in groups or gatherings that make you feel uncomfortable. Sometime you can change it without offending anyone, yet standing up for our rights or opinions. We call this “assertive communication.” When the tone of a social gathering becomes too confrontational, negative, lewd, insensitive, prejudiced, or otherwise distasteful, you…
Startlines can reduce stress
Forget about deadlines. How about startlines? For a society so obsessed with when a project gets finished,we’re curiously all too casual about when to get it started. And that can be the most critical factor of all. Which may explain why so many deadlines aren’t met. Instead of stressing over when something is due, focus…
Anger Detection Software Now Available
Often, anger is communicated in non-verbal behaviors such as voice tone, voice energy, and voice volume. Now, they have developed software to detect the emotion of anger by analyzing one’s voice. Reminds one of the computer HAL in Stanley Kubrick’s classic 2110: a Space Odyssey As reported in Life Science, Sigard, a new software package…