Anger Management and how it relates to use of force and self defense
Anger Management and how it relates to use of force and self-defense Law Enforcement personnel such as police officers, probation officers and national gaurds are often placed in dangerous and stressful situtations in which use of force is needed. The way in which law enforcement personnel manages anger is often a matter of life and…
New Beginnings – Dedicated to Cjon Damitri Patterson
At the brink of every New Year we make promises to ourselves and to the ones we love to change. Often we’ve made the same promises every year for the last decade and find ourselves repeating the same negative habits, hurting ourselves and the people we care about. In some circles the number 8 is…
Five tips to deal with holiday anger and stress
The holidays often bring family members together who maybe haven’t seen much of each other throughout the year. Old resentments and grievances can often emerge, sometimes with strained or even disasterous consequences. Many families find themselves time-stressed with holday preparations and activities which lower coping ability even further. The following five tips have been found…
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Quick Anger Tip #29-Learn To Suffer Fools
We often generate anger or feel irritation toward other people when we tell ourselves they are “stupid,” “incompetent,” “dumb,”slow,” or some some other term indicating that they do not live up to expectations or your performance standards. We teach people in our anger management programs that the issue here is often unrealistic expectations of people…
New Study Shows Domestic Violence Not Always One Sided
In a recently published study reported in the American Journal of Public Health, almost 25% of people surveyed said there was some violence in their relationship. According to both men and women surveyed, 50% of this violence was reciprocal, that is, involved both parties, and in those cases the woman was more likely to have…
The Real Art of Peace
To continue our series on the union of anger management and principals of martial arts training, Morihei Ueshiba, founder of Aikido, says……”The way of the warrior, the Art of Politics, is to stop trouble before it starts. It consists in defeating your adversaries spiritually by making them realize the folly of their actions. The Way…
The Art of Peace
With the recent union of the Anger Coach and the Martial Arts Community, I have come across a little booklet called “The Art of Peace” by Morihei Ueshiba, founder of Aikido. Many of his teachings illustrate that anger management is actually mental martial arts. To start, he says: “In the Art of Peace we never…
Anger Coach and The Martial Arts
The Anger Coach now offers training to Martial Arts Instructors in a new cooperative effort. According to martial arts activist Tom Callos, “Anger management is a core ingredient to a meaningful self-defense program. But until now, there hasn’t been a program to teach martial arts instructors how to weave the education into their program. Now…
Quick Anger Tip #28- Expect Less, Be Happy
Anger is often generated by disappointment because of the gap between what we expect and what we get in relationships, in life, or on our jobs. Some research shows that the problem is not so much the “reality” of the situation, as your expectation of it. In martial research, for instance, a consistent finding is…
Quick Anger Tip #27 – Avoid Communicating with Contempt
Contempt is a communication style of regarding someone or something as inferior or less-than. In effect, we look down on them. Even worse, sometimes it means treating others with scorn as if we regard them as worthless. When we are treated with contempt by others we feel despised, dishonored, or disgraced. In marriage or relationships,…
Quick Anger Tip # 26- Try Not To Stonewall
Stonewalling is a term used by some marital researchers to describe how partners in a relationship emotionally shut-down when upset, angry or hurt by their spouse. If done excessively, it is a predictor of divorce or relationship breakup. Stonewalling is often thought to occur more frequently among men than women, but sometimes women do it…
Quick Tip 25 – Be Less Critical
Too much criticism in a relationship is one of the predictors of marital divorce. Too much criticism also disrupts numerous other relationships such as child-parent, neighbor-neighbor, and employer-employee. It is OK to complain or even to criticize constructively and nicely, but mean-spirited criticism meant to degrade, express hostility, or control others is destructive to almost…
Anger Tip 24 – Avoid defensiveness when relating to others
Psychological defensiveness can be defined as an emotion where one displays an excessive rejection of criticism. Defensiveness is predictor of martial divorce because it prevents a person from receiving honest feedback from others – feedback that would be useful in resolving conflict or promoting closeness. The defensive person rarely takes personal responsibility for an issue…
Quick Anger Tip 23 – Never Marry Potential
We often get angry at our spouses because they don’t live up to our expectations. Angry people often assume that their disappointment is due almost entirely to the poor of inadequate behavior or performance of the other person. Actually, the disappointment can also be caused by your misguided expectations of the other person or the…
Quick Anger Tip 22- Husbands Need Roadmap
Wives often become angry at their husbands because their husbands do not respond emotionally or in behavior to their complaints. Husbands, on the other hand, often confess that they don’t respond sometimes because it is not clear to them what the “right” answer or response is. It is our experience in anger management classes that…
Quick Anger Tip 21 – Protect self from passive-aggressive people
Passive-aggressive behavior is a communication style that is very difficult to deal with. Persons who communicate in this way are often stubborn, they obstruct goals while denying they are doing so, they procrastinate, and they are often sullen. They agree to everything, yet accomplish almost nothing they agree to, while blaming outside events for their…
Increase in Family Business Anger Noted
Getting along with each other in a family business is no small feat. We have noticed a definite increase in referrals for anger and stress management in smaller family-owned businesses, especially second generation ones, or first generation businesses that are in the process of succession. The on-the-job outbursts can range from irritating to deadly. One…
Quick Anger Tip 20 – Develop clear vision of your intent or purpose
Often we become angry or resentful because we lose sight of the bigger picture. For instance, with our children, we may see only their negative behavior, forgetting your broader parenting intent such as having a close relationship with your children, helping them develop a mind of their own, or helping them develop into responsible human…
Quick Anger Tip 19 – Raise your mood before dealing with an anger trigger
It is a known psychological fact that the level of your mood determines the perception you have of your world. In a high mood you see the best fat burner for women world one way: In a low mood, you may see the exact same thing quite differently. To better manage your anger, try to…
Quick Anger Tip 18 – Don’t let others ring your bell
The famous Russian psychologist Pavlov started an experiment by putting food before hungry dogs. Only problem was there was a barrier between the dogs and the food. Result? All the dogs begin salivating. He then continued the experiment by ringing a bell, and then presenting the food. Again, the dogs salivated. In a third part…