Do the eight tools help with anger toward self?
Most of our writings concern people who have anger toward others. But, I recently received an email from someone who said he never gets mad at other people – only himself. He was wondering if the eight tools can be applied in that situation. The answer is a resounding YES. Even anger toward other people…
Angry Men Need To Be Kinder To Self
Law Professor Carl Sanborn knows all about anger in men and has written a fascinating new book about it. Some very interesting ideas: “The sad fact is that both boys and girls are warped by societal expectations” – by what Sandborn calls ‘patriarchy’. “I know, all red-blooded men cringe when they hear that word, patriarchy,” says…
Anger Vs. Happiness
What is emotional happiness? Can people predict how happy they will be in the future? When people look back at their lives, do they regret inactions or actions more? These and many other questions are answered in a fascinating best seller by Harvard Professor Daniel Gilbert titled “Stumbling on Happiness.” The answer to the first…
Forgiveness core tool of anger management
Do you believe in forgiveness or revenge? or both, depending on the circumstances? That was the topic this evening in our anger management class held in Orange, California. The topic brings out many conflicting emotions in participants, as all admitted to struggling with the concept of forgiveness and letting go of grievances. Research shows that…
Anger Tool #3: Respond Instead of React
The Anger Coach, with Century Anger Management, had developed a unique and acclaimed model of anger management called the “Eight Tools” model. Tool #3 is “Respond instead of React” meaning that human beings have the unique ability to decide and make choices how to deal with anger triggers in their world. This means we have…
Anger Coach Offers Conflict Resolution Program For Couples
The Anger Coach is now offering a special program to help couples resolve relationship conflict. It is for new couples, couples who need relationship enhancement, and high conflict couples near divorce. The Keeping Love Alive program by Michelle Weiner-Davis will be offered as a six-hour program (two Saturday mornings) in Orange, California. Dr. Fiore, psychologist…
Anger Coach Online Offers Discount To Deployed Military Personnel
August 2, 2008 Dr. Tony Fiore, owner of Anger Coach Online, a leading web-based anger management program, announced today his company will be providing 1/2 price discounts to active military people who are struggling with anger issues, or anticipate that they will have issues when they return home. This is in response to numerous military…
Do most men want to please women?
The answer may be “yes”, according to a new book titled “How to improve your marriage without talking about It” by Doctors Pat Love and Steven Stosney. These authors argue that the human brain is more socially structured than that of any other animal, and there are gender differences in how the human brain works….
Avoidance of Conflict Predicts Divorce
Did you know that the number of predictor of divorce is the habitual avoidance of conflict? According to new research discussed on website www.smartmarriage.com, successful couples are those who know how to discuss differences in ways that actually strengthen their relationship and improves intimacy. Successful couples know how to contain their disagreements. That is, they…
Anger Coach Online Now Provides Ebook of Course Material
Anger Coach Online, the popular distance learning program of The Anger Coach now offers a free ebook of the course material, once the online course is completed. This is in response to many requests for the program by persons who had completed it, but then had no way to review the material at a later…
CAM Training ReCertified for 2008-2009
Century Anger Management, the training organization for the Anger Coach and AJ Novick Group has been recertified by the California Standards Training for Corrections Programs for the year 2008-2009. This means that our training program again meets the training requirements as set forth by the Corrections Standards Authority for California Counties participating in the Standards…
Century Anger Management Gains New Approval from IAODAPCA
Century Anger Management gains new approval from the Illinois Alcohol & Other Drug Abuse Professional Certification Association. This new approval is in addition to the numerous other approvals granted to Century Anger Management’s world class training model.Century Anger Management is one of the leading global providers of anger management certification training. They are the only…
In close relationships, most of the time being loved, being respected or being personally happy is more important than being…
We all LIKE being right, but some people HAVE to be right as a matter of power and control over others. These people are very rigid in their thinking patterns because they don’t allow that others may have equally valid opinions or ways of doing things. While it IS true that sometimes we indeed have…
I need to develop more patience and tolerance toward some people or situations – Anger Self Talk 6
“As soon as you concern yourself with the “good” and “bad” of your fellows, you create an opening in your heart for maliciousness to enter. Testing, competing with, and criticizing others weaken and defeat you”……Morihei Ueshiba We live in a complex world with over 6 billion other people, many of whom see things, value things…
I am partly responsible for how people treat me – Anger Self Talk 5
Has it occurred to you that your attitudes, appearance, demeanor, and behaviors are constantly teaching others how you are willing to be treated? It’s like we are beaming signals to other people of which we may or may not be aware. Yet, we sometimes are astounded when people then treat us in ways consistent with…
Nobody is perfect. I must remember that even good intentioned and competent people make mistakes – Anger Self-Talk 4
“Iron is full of impurities that weaken it; through forging it becomes steel and is transformed into a razor-sharp sword. Human beings develop in the same fashion” – Morihei Ueshiba  To reduce anger, remind yourself that most of us are works in progress and, as such, are imperfect. We all have good days and and…
I cannot control people who do not wish to be controlled – Self Talk Part 3
Much anger is the world is generated by people trying to control or change other people who do not wish to be controlled or changed. Rather than thinking in terms of “control,” think instead of other methods of changing and influencing others such as: persuading, educating, rewarding, enticing, compromising, being positive role model, advising, urging…
Things don’t always have to go my way – Self Talk Part 2
Some days you are the pigeon; other days you are the statue. When people read this “self-talk,” in anger management class, there is always immediate chuckling indicating self-awareness of how often we convince ourselves just the opposite – that things should go our way because after all, we are masters of the universe and legends in…
How To Talk To Yourself When Angry-Part 1
As you go through your daily life, what kinds of things irritate or anger you? If you are like most people, the list is porbably quite long and may vary in length depending on the day and your mood at the time. Our anger management participants regularly tell us they experience workplace anger, desk rage,…
Federal Employees need Anger Management Too Sometimes
I recently received a referral from an employee for the Department of Homeland Security (DHS). DHS employees often face very stressful situations, depending on their job function and can find learning skills in anger management to be extremely helpful. Homeland security is one of our nations top priorities and therefore can be an equation for…
Anger At Work
Anger at Work by Lynette Hoy I don’t really know where to begin… I’m 22. I work at a daycare, and each day I take care of between 6-10 children from age of 7 mo. – 1 year 4 mo. It is stressful. The kids cry non stop. I am always running around like my…