AngerCoach™ Videos
These anger management videos are a free service provided by Dr Tony Fiore – The AngerCoach. In these videos we highlight some practical ways to apply anger management tools in your life. Learn viable tips and exercises for individuals seeking to offer help to loved ones, friends or who are interested in their own personal development.
Please note: This anger program and these anger tips are not meant to substitute for professional diagnosis, treatment or advice. If you have intense, serious or chronic anger problems, or you have to deal with someone else who does, you should immediately consult a mental health or medical professional for help.
Dealing with Stress
Stress is often the trigger that exacerbates anger in individuals. Many people suffer from a variety of life situations that influence their ability to maintain healthy relationships – but this does not have to be the case!
I have helped many people over the years to deal with stress better in their lives. In this video I share with you some of those practical techniques.
How to Tank Your Relationship Part 2 or: How to Cope With Couple Anger Better
All relationships deal with anger to one extent or another and the success of a relationship doesn’t necessarily depend on the amount of anger in a relationship. Research suggests that many successful couples deal with anger from one or both partners – so it’s not the necessarily expression of anger that causes issues in relationships.
Successful couples learn to deal with and manage anger better together by avoiding the common mistakes highlighted in this video.
Change Your Self Talk For Better Anger Control
Self talk is what you tell yourself about the things that happen to you in life. Many times anger can be managed successfully by changing this self talk. Anger in life is normal and there are many things that trigger anger in our modern world.
Most of these things we cannot control – but we can control the conversation in our head. When we take better control of what we tell ourselves about the things that cause our anger – we can manage our anger better and have more successful relationships in life.
How To Tank Your Relationship – Part I
Many couples struggle with one or both partners exhibiting less desirable traits that are perceived as selfish, uncaring, misguided or just plain wrong. Research has shown however that many couples can survive – and even thrive – in a relationship where one or both partners have these negative traits.
Surprisingly, it is not the traits themselves that cause the most problems but our response when we see these traits in our partners. In this video I will show you 2 paths that can be taken in your relationship; 1 path that will tank your relationship or a second path that can lead to far better outcomes for you and your partner. The choice is yours.
3 Methods to Disarm an Angry Wife
Many men today lack the skills needed to give their wives and partners what they need in a relationship. Much of this is due to the fact that the roles women traditionally played in relationships has changed over the last several decades and some men have not yet learned how to care for the women they love. This vacuum creates an environment where women feel relationship anger over the fact that their male partners are not providing what they need emotionally. While their partners may be considered ‘good’ in that they can provide materially, be good fathers and liked in their communities, the lack of emotional support causes some women to bubble forth with anger. Some men in turn irresponsibly relegate this anger to ‘hormonal’ or ’emotional issues’ which throws gasoline on the fire. Avoiding these issues is shockingly easy and I provide 3 simple to employ methods to disarm an angry wife.
5 Ways to Respond Instead of React
When we react to something, we do it automatically but when we respond to something – that requires thoughtful consideration and deliberate decision making. When I teach people how to manage their anger, the tool “Respond Instead of React” is most helpful as it shows people that they have the power to control their response to angry situations.
Instead of being restrained by instinctual, “knee-jerk” reactions to upsetting things, I teach people how to stop and slow these “automatic” reactions and turn them into deliberate, meaningful and positive responses. In this video, I will teach you 5 simple ways to do this.
Why “peace at any price” is not a winning relationship strategy
Many people in relationships are averse to conflict and confrontation which is why some people choose to adopt the “peace at any price” approach to dealing with relationship issues. While this tactic can avert direct confrontation in the moment – it often delays the inevitable. Coping with your partners disrespect for long periods of time will cause resentment and frustration to build up – resulting in an outburst. What I teach people in these situations is to learn how to communicate assertively. In this video, I teach you the core concepts of assertive communication and how this can reduce relationship stress, anger and frustration.
3 steps to manage expectations and improve happiness
We all want to learn how to be more happy in our day-to-day lives, but did you know how influential our ability to manage expectations is to this quality? Learning how to manage our expectations can help us to set more realistic goals in life and adapt how we look at the accomplishments of others. This is not easy to do – especially since there are many obstacles working against us having a sensible self-image or a rational view of our relationships. In this video, I show 3 simple steps for you to learn how to adjust your expectations. Improve friendships, romantic and familial relationships, and even your own self image by managing your expectations.
4 strategies to forgive and accept wrongs by a partner
Whether you are actively in a relationship or not, learning to forgive is an incredibly important skill to have and hold successful, long term relationships. We all make mistakes and when the hurt from these mistakes cut deep, our ability to forgive is essential not just for the person who hurt us, but for our own health as well. Learn 4 valuable strategies for forgiveness and how you can practice these in your everyday life.
The 5 levels of passive aggression
Passive aggressive behavior does not alternate between passive behavior and aggressive behavior, but rather combines them simultaneously into one behavior that is really irritating and confounding to other people. In this video I walk you through the 5 levels of a Passive Aggressive person and simple examples of each behavior for you to recognize. The purchase the book referenced in this video, click here.
6 methods to communicate assertively
Assertive communication helps people – whether they are in relationships or not – experience better interpersonal outcomes. In this video, I will help you understand what assertive communication means, and I provide 6 simple ways to implement assertive communication tools in your life. Improve your relationships with others whether they be friends, family, workmates or romantic.
Dealing with perpetual issues
Relationship research has revealed that a high percentage of relationship issues are unsolvable. These are often called “Perpetual Issues”. Every relationship has these unresolvable issues – but the key difference between successful couples is how they handle these issues. Learn a basic principle in how successful couples manage to deal with perpetual issues and how you can apply this in your life.
Anger and sex – 5 tips to help couples
As a practicing psychologist and marriage therapist, I often encounter clients who are angry because they suffer sexual frustration in their marriage or relationship. Anger is sometimes a secondary emotion, meaning that there is something underneath it which triggers it. Often that “something” is sexual frustration. In this video I will help you to understand the correlation between anger and sex in your relationship and the anger tools that are useful in addressing these issues.
Are you married to a narcissist? 3 Steps for survival
Learn 3 crucial steps to live with a narcissist if you are in a relationship with a narcissist and feel that it is worthwhile staying in the relationship, I provide 5 additional tips on how you can work around the type of narcissist you may be involved with. Not all narcissists are equal and you can successfully remain in a relationship with them despite their flaws.
Is humor a remedy for anger?
Learn how you can dissolve anger using humor. I provide 4 easy to implement techniques for humour-challenged people so that you can reduce anger, stress and frustration in your every day life.
Empathy and you
Learn the basics of empathy and what it is. Learn what the 4 core aspects of empathy are. You can find more information about empathy and the tools that I have made available here.
What is cognitive empathy?
Learn ways to look at things from the perspective of your partner – putting yourself in someone else’s shoes. Seeing things from the point of view of your partner is much harder when you don’t agree with the idea or concept which is why it is such a crucial tool in improving relationships.
Explaining empathy
If you want to learn more about how you can develop a stronger sense of empathy in your relationship I’ve put together a 14-page report that’s FREE.
Help repair your relationship through the power of empathy!
Are you married to a narcissist?
Everyone has some degree of narcissism, but some people have higher levels than others. Learn about 2 main types of narcissism that can show up in a relationship and how you can identify this disorder to better protect yourself or what to do if you are the narcissist in the relationship.
What is Discernment Counseling?
When a one or more partners in a relationship struggle with the question; do we make it work, break up or decide later – then Discernment Counseling is for you. Learn how this process works even if only one person in the relationship is willing to participate. The goal is NOT to solve your relationship problems, but to see if they are solvable. Click here to learn more.
Marriage therapy by Dr Tony Fiore
I am Dr Tony Fiore and I offer Individual and Couples therapy and discernment counseling to people all over the world. I am located in Newport Beach California, but I also have a practice location in Long Beach California. For my clients who live elsewhere, I make my marital coaching services available via Skype or Zoom. I have helped hundreds of people manage anger and stress better – resulting in a better quality of life for them and their family. I can help you too.
If you would like to schedule a consultation, please contact me at 714-745-1393.